When seniors move to a new living space, there is a period of adjustment. Changing locations can be stressful at any age but for seniors there may be additional challenges and anxiety involved.
They may mourn the loss of their independence and the home and life they have built. Some experience a great sense of loss even if the move was their choice.
If the senior struggles with mental health issues they may become confused and disoriented when changing physical locations.
As a relative or caregiver there are steps you can take to make the transition easier for them.
Start the conversation before the need for assisted living arises, if you have not already discussed the options that are available do so, then if that time comes, they will feel more prepared. Most people want to stay in their homes as they age, and many do but talk about different scenarios, so you understand what they want.
Determine the cost, the senior may have set money aside for long-term care, options for payment can include private funding, long term care insurance, Medicaid, Medicare and VA benefits.
Do some research on assisted living facilities in their area, narrow your search to 3-4 communities. Make a list of the pros and cons of each facility. Get referrals from friends, family and the seniors physician.
Before the move take them for a visit to meet the staff and other residents. Schedule a tour so they can become familiar with the facility.
Prepare them for the move by talking about it, answer any questions they have. Keep the conversation positive by pointing out aspects of the move that will benefit them such as the unique amenities, making new acquaintances, the support they will receive and anything else that will make their life easier and more comfortable.
Knowing what to expect reduces stress, go over their new daily schedule such as meals, socialization, events, activities, and downtime, write it down and post it where they can reference it.
Help them establish new relationships and get involved with the community. Making new friends will help to ease the transition.
Although they may need to downsize and get rid of some of their belongings, help them choose the items that are most meaningful to take along. Being surrounded by things they are familiar with can reduce stress and help them feel more at home. Wait to purchase new items, they may already be feeling overwhelmed, adding to many new things could cause stress. Wait a bit and then talk to them about what they want and need.
Meet with the staff and communicate their needs, concerns, and preferences.
Be supportive and understanding during the transition. The senior may feel anger or resentment about the move. Make sure they have a way to contact you at any time and visit often, they may feel alone especially for the first few months. During your visit you can offer support and help them meet new people. Ask friends and relatives to visit them often.
Assisted living professionals say it can take between 3-6 months and sometimes longer to adjust to the new environment. Remind them of the benefits of the move, safety, assistance, security, community, and other positives but also allow them to talk openly about their fears and concerns and acknowledge them. If they feel understood and heard, they will feel more at ease.
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